As parents, one of our overarching goals is to help our kids transition from young adulthood to full adulthood and independence. Some of the stops along the way can cause us extreme pain and frustration. Ask yourself the following:
Despite rules and consequences, do you feel your teen will defy them?
Are you exhausted from your teen’s defiant or destructive behavior and choices?
Do you feel powerless when dealing with your teen?
Do you suspect your teen lies or is dishonest with you?
Do you worry about your teen’s future?
Is your teen experiencing trouble at school? (suspension, truancy, grades)
Do you worry your teen may not finish high school?
Does your teen have trouble with authority? At school or at home?
Does your teen seem unmotivated or depressed?
Does your teen lack self-esteem and self-worth?
Is your teen using or experimenting with drugs and alcohol?
Does your teen display violent behavior?
Has your teen had problems with the law?
Does your teen’s behavior make you worry about their safety?
If you are like most parents, you are uncertain how to tackle the problem yourself. You turn to what you know and have learned, yet the problems persists. What possible alternatives are available outside of the family? Will they work? In the short-run? Over the long haul?